I'm the very proud wife of a USAF Chaplain, but it didn’t start out that way. Let me explain….
I married a school teacher; I never wanted to be a chaplain’s wife-I am a pastor’s daughter-been there, done that, didn’t want that life! I never wanted to be a military spouse either, or at least an active duty military spouse. And here I sit, 28 years later, and I’m both! There are days, I admit, I don’t handle it well. I have a good cry or a very heated conversation with God or some imaginary person who needs to hear my two cents. No, I’m not crazy; it’s just my way of staying sane! There are phone calls to mothers, sisters, or friends. Then, I pull up my big girl panties and do the next thing. I should have this life figured out by now, right? Well, I most certainly do not. I’ve been ashamed in the past to admit this. But I’ve learned to accept it and keep going. Life is a journey…I mess up; I fail; I have to say I’m sorry more times than I care to admit. But, I’m learning, growing, and with God’s help, getting better at this thing called life.
George served numerous TDY’s all over the world, a remote assignment for a year in Korea and 2 deployments-one in Iraq and one in Afghanistan. Deployments are tough. We know it will happen and we prepare the best we can but it doesn’t make it any easier when it comes. I have to laugh and shake my head when someone says, “It gets easier each time he leaves, right?” It never gets easier and it’s ok to admit it. To be honest it gets harder because I know what’s coming. Everything that can go wrong will go wrong-it’s just the way it is. When George went to Afghanistan in 2010 I was scared-I remembered the horrors from past deployments and remotes. I was dreading not only him leaving but everything I was going to have to deal with, handle alone, fix, etc. for 6 months. But I also realized I had women looking to me as an example-good or bad. I got the idea to count blessings instead of gripe about frustrations. I decided to share on facebook something I was thankful for everyday. I called them my “deployment positives”. It was SO much fun! Some things were serious, but a lot were silly and examples from daily life. Here’s a shortened version of my “Deployment Positives”. I hope they will encourage you to see your blessings then share them with others. Everyday I’m learning it’s not so much what I do in this life but how I do it that really counts. No, this life doesn’t get easier, we just try to do it better!
~Deployment Positives, 2010~
Ok, seriously...there are so many negatives about your spouse being deployed~appliances die, pets develop weird allergies, windshields cracks, shingles blow off the roof in a wind storm, furniture falls apart, cell phone companies never get your bill right, children turn into beings from who knows where, you have to run EVERY errand, drive EVERY car pool, make EVERY parent/teacher conference, go to the vet, go to the store, go to ball games alone, church alone, parties alone, I could go on and on! But instead, I've decided to think of the positives and record them. I hope they will encourage each of you who are currently going through a deployment like me, help other military wives laugh a little, and give the rest of you to get a little glimpse of our military world. My goal is to have at least one positive thing for everyday George is gone. By the end I'll have almost 200 positive things to be thankful for! :O) Here we go!
1.) Only one side of the bed gets messed up.
2.) THE REMOTE IS MIIIIIIIIIINE!
3.) No guilt for cooking just a baked potato for a meal!
4.) Getting to the mailbox FIRST!!!
5.) The closet is totally mine!
6.) All the love and support shown to us!
7.) Tax free paycheck!
8.) Every time the phone rings my heart skips a beat hoping it's the Colonel calling!
9.) Watching tv in bed as late as I want!
10.) Flirting with my man via video on skype!